Distractions

 I love the holidays.  I don't even mind the busyness that comes with them.  This year has been particularly busy already, with trying to wrap everything up at work for a 3 month leave, preparing the house for a new baby (trusting she comes home), decorating for Christmas and buying and wrapping ALL.THE.GIFTS before she gets here.  The nesting bug has definitely hit me...along with the pregnancy discomfort that comes with carrying a bigger baby.  

It hit me over the weekend, when an emotional moment came out of nowhere, how distracted I've been.  It's so easy to forget about all God has been doing these past few months, to draw us so close to Him as we trust and hold on to hope.  I've said this before, I wish this wasn't our reality, but I'm so filled with thankfulness for the way the Lord has met us in our fears and uncertainty...for the ways He has encouraged us with all of you.  I don't want to ever forget any of it.  

It's such a blessing to get to see her every single week.  Today the blessing was not lost on me.  Part of my devotional reading was from Psalm 136, where the writer is giving thanks to God for who He is and what He's done.  Each phrase is completed with "His love endures forever."  His love for this little girl, for this little family is enduring.  I was filled with great gratitude for His enduring love as I soaked in her (very) chubby cheeks and double chins, her already full head of hair and her chunky little legs.  God is so good for giving us this very special time with her.  

All went well in today's appointments.  The amniotic fluid is decreasing (which is normal for this time in pregnancy) to normal levels and my body is still healthy and doing what it should to carry her to term.  Her brain remains stable.  The doctor said it actually doesn't look like the fluid is putting a severe amount of pressure on the tissue and she's liking how the tissue is developing.  Her guess is that it's going to be a "good outcome" when she's born, although we really won't know until that happens.  For now though, we'll just be glad for the positive reports and hopeful outlook.  And no matter what, our hope remains in the ultimate Healer.  

Here are some ways to keep praying for us:

- Pray that baby girl and I both stay stable and healthy

- Please pray for my sleep at night.  Indigestion, restless legs and just general discomfort and insomnia are making it tough.  She's already estimated to be over 7 lbs (which is bigger than Colton when he was born), so this is a bit different for me.

- Pray that I am able to bring things at work to good places before she comes

- Please continue to pray for a miraculous healing of her brain

We are trusting that God is good and He has worked out all of the details of her coming into the world and what happens after that.  Please know that whatever our "good outcome" looks like, if you are praying with us, you are already part of a miracle.  Her life is already so special.  Thanks for supporting us and praying for us!

We have a date!

Today was a first.  We were able to see the fuzzy hair on her head in the ultrasound.  Just amazing.  

Not a lot to report today, although we had a full mid day of appointments.  Everything is still stable.  The doctor actually commented that it's nice to have these kinds of conversations with parents, because it's not always the case!  We are very thankful.  She's estimated to way about 5 lbs 13 oz and her growth is right on track.  Her head is of course still very large (99%), but the growth there is expected and stable.  The good news is that the ratio of fluid in her ventricles to overall head growth is pretty much the same and we continue to see more brain tissue in the scans.  We still really have NO idea what this means for her once she's born, but they are hopeful indicators.  In other good news, I had fewer and lighter contractions while hooked up to the monitor today (I still don't feel them.)

We met with a high risk OB in the practice today and scheduled my c-section - Dec. 21.  I was hoping it could be earlier, but baby girl and I are so healthy, they won't do it before 39 weeks.  If I'm honest, I wish it weren't so close to Christmas and so close to my due date (12/26).  I'm a little nervous about going into labor before then and having to have an emergency c-section.  Our doctor was great though, and walked us through everything that would happen if that were the case.  The NICU nurses would still be in the delivery room ready to assess and care for our girl, so we should be good!  In a neat coincidence (or God moment for us), the OB we met today, who will also do the c-section, is from Nigeria.  If you don't know a lot about Seth's and my story - Seth was born and spent his first 5 years in Nigeria and 20 years later, I visited the exact town (hospital even) where he was born!  

Life outside of the baby has been a little haywire recently (a Covid case in Colton's class - he's negative, thankfully - the week before his birthday and party, that totally changed all sorts of plans last weekend, this week and this weekend) and it's had me thinking about how tightly I hold on to my plans.  This c section scheduling just reinforced my conviction that God is showing me something here.  "In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps" Proverbs 16:10 But the plans of the LORD stand firm forever, the purposes of his heart through all generations. Psalm 33:11

While it's good to make plans, I really am learning to hold onto them loosely, because God is determining each step of the way.  It's definitely difficult for me to let go, but at the same time, so reassuring that the One who holds the whole Universe in His hands holds the specifics of our lives.

Please pray that I would be able to let go of any plans I think I have and just let God work.

Pray for miraculous decrease in the fluid in her ventricles and if not, continued stability and health.

Pray for my mood as I move into this last month of pregnancy.

Pray for continued stability and health in my own body.  

Thank you so much for all of the ways that you've been supporting us and praying for us.  We feel very lifted up and have so much peace (that in itself is really a miracle!)

Love you all! ♡

When it starts to pile up

 So I've moved to weekly appointments because of a slightly high amount of amniotic fluid they noted in my ultrasound 2 weeks ago.  It's concerning, because this could lead to preterm labor, which would just add to the challenges our girl has.  I had my first weekly monitoring last week and baby girl passed all of her tests just fine, but they noticed I was having pretty frequent contractions.  They aren't painful (which is good), but something to keep an eye on. 

This of course brings me back to that ugly state of worry.  Last week was pretty rough as I tried to stick to a really low glucose diet (to hopefully help with the amniotic fluid issue) and drink more water (for the contractions) and not worry that every tiny contraction could be turning into labor.  It was frustrating, because I've felt so much peace recently about God having her life in His hands.  It was so much easier when it was trusting Him with her and not having to trust Him to take care of me too.  Sometimes when things are clearly out of your control (baby having enlarged ventricles), it's easier to say "Ok God, this is Yours.  I surrender and trust You."  Then, when it's something you can exert a little more control over, you (I) drive yourself crazy trying to do everything perfectly so you don't mess up the plan.  In reality, I don't have control over when I go into labor. That's in God's control too.  I can follow all of the guidance to the best of my ability (limit simple carbs, try for 100 oz of water), but there's no peace until I give that to God.  I can't just trust Him with parts of this situation, I have to trust Him with the WHOLE thing.  I also have to continually trust Him with each detail that comes up.  There are times when it feels like it's all just piling up and the tiniest thing is the straw that breaks the camel's back.  The lesson I'm learning is that everyday, multiple times a day even, I have give each of those little pieces of straw to God, and give them back when I take them back.  

Seth got to join me for today's appointments, which helped me so much.  I'm still having frequent Braxton Hicks contractions (although I don't even feel the majority of them).   The doctor asked me how much water I was drinking.  Imagine my surprise when I proudly announced that I had been drinking 70 oz of water daily (which I had upped a lot from the prior week) and he told me that still wasn't enough.  Whew, I might float away.  If anyone has any suggestions how to drink 100 oz a day, I'm open! 

In other news, though, my amniotic fluid levels are back in the normal range (although the high end of normal).  I still have to stick with the lower glucose diet, but I'm getting used to that.  (Halloween was challenging, but I'll survive.)  She's still doing a great job growing, moving (ouch) and practicing her breathing.  The sonographer commented today on how strong she is (in relation to her kicks and punches), and I smiled to myself thinking about how strong she is in more ways than one.  Her left and right ventricles (the fluid in her brain) did slightly increase in size, but in line with her head growth, which is normal.  All of this is definitely reassuring.  

Thanks for continuing to walk this road with us! If you are praying for us, here are some specifics:

- Pray for the amniotic fluid to stay in normal range

- Pray that I will not go into labor in November.  Once we get to December, she will have a much easier (and less risky) time getting to where she needs to be.

- Pray that her brain continues to experience good growth (there is tissue growing)!

- Pray that her ventricles would even start decreasing in size and that she wouldn't even need surgical intervention when she's born.

- Pray that if she does need surgery, that she'll be a good candidate, there will be no complications and it will give her a great quality of life. 

- Pray for my sleep.  I have restless legs and pretty bad heartburn.  I'm also just getting to the stage where I'm generally a little more uncomfortable.  The anxiety doesn't help either.

Thank you again for your overwhelming support! 💗

Holding Pattern

 We are still doing ok over here!  Last week was crazy busy with appointments and regular 3rd trimester pregnancy testing and this week has just been about catching back up.  

The good news is that there is no real news to come out of last week's appointments.  I'm doing fine (if fat and tired is considered fine :-)) and baby girl is still fighting.  The fluid in her lateral ventricles did increase slightly from my ultrasound two weeks prior, but not aggressively.  The doctor explained that there are 3 scenarios we can see in our appointments going forward - 1) the fluid stabilizes and just stops growing, 2) fluid growth stays on the same trajectory 3) fluid growth spikes (which is when there's an issue).  We're happy that we seem to be in scenario 2 and are praying to stay there or scenario 1 (or the fluid decreasing, which we know God can do!)  Everything else is still looking great.  She passed her punching and kicking tests with flying colors (which did not surprise me in the least) and we saw her taking practice breathes, which is also a great sign.  She even gave us a smile, which may have made my eyes a little leaky!

Her smile made me realize how thankful I am for this time with her right now.  When we first got the news of the fluid on her brain, every kick, punch and squirm was a reminder that she wasn't ok.  Every time Colton hugged my belly or talked to her, it took everything I had not to burst into tears.  But now, it fills me with so much joy that this little girl is a living part of our family already!  I'm so glad Colton can feel her kicks and interact with her and will always have these precious memories.

We are still filled with hope that although life may have some more challenges for her (or maybe not!), she is going to live a meaningful life.

My next appointment is this coming Monday.  Please continue to pray with us for full physical healing of her brain.  Pray that the fluid growth would not spike.  Pray that God would continue to fill us with His hope and peace.

Thanks again for being a part of this journey with us!

Waiting...

Last week was A.WEEK...Our church had it's last service on Sunday and one of my very best friends suprised me after being overseas the past 3 years, on Monday Seth and I spent most of the day at Hopkins for appointments, another zoom appointment on Tuesday, Colton's first x-rays on Wed (he's fine), Colton's first COVID test on Thursday (he's fine) and our neighbors tree crushing our fence.  

After all of the appointments, I think the main take away is still "Wait and see", although we do have some more information.  I had a fetal MRI first thing on Monday, followed by another ultrasound with the Fetal Therapy Team at Hopkins.  They were able to read both together and are more confident in acqueductal stenosis as a cause for the fluid.  The doctor also told us that the imaging answered some important questions about her brain development that the team had been wanting to see.  The good news (or what we're taking as good news) is that other than the fluid (which is really bad and growing), her brain seems to be doing what it's supposed to.  It's forming the folds that are supposed to be forming and the nerves seem to be migrating to where they are supposed to be going.  Her cerebellum and brain stem also appear unaffected.  Her other organs also appear to be functioning just as they should.  Seth and I are taking one additional step to hopefully rule out anything genetic being the cause and give us more confidence that this is purely mechanical.  The amniocentes that we did when we got the news ruled out most things genetic.  She has one portion of a chromosome that is duplicated, but they call it an unknown variant, because they don't know if it's significant or not.  The hope is, if Seth or I also have this duplication, then we can just say it's nothing.  If we don't have it, then it's more decisions about how much additional testing is appropriate.

And decisions are not my favorite thing right now.  It's strange how the stress of all of this lies really just below the surface and most of the time I feel pretty great just going about normal life.  Then the smallest thing will set me off - not having apples when I need one, something going bad (yes, mostly food related - I AM pregnant :-)) and the tiniest decisions.  This morning Seth asked me if Colton should wear long sleeves to school and I was almost in tears.  So if you experience me being even more indecisive than usual, just know that it's because we are contemplating some really huge decisions we might have to make in the coming months and not because any other decisions are unimportant.  

But back to the doctors.  We felt pretty encouraged after meeting with Dr. Miller, the Fetal Therapy doctor who did the ultrasound.  Another aside, but please please please be kind to the medical professionals you know.  Throughout this entire COVID crisis, they haven't missed a step and continue to fight to give their patients the best care they can.  Dr. Miller went above and beyond for us. As our appointment with her was ending it was getting close to lunch time and I still had to meet with the new OB and come back and meet with the neurosurgeon.  Not only did she offer snacks, she also worked with the other providers to help us get seen as quickly as possible so that we could get out of there and eat.  She walked us to our next appointment and her whole staff made sure our coordination of care was seemless.  That's not her job, but it made a world of difference to 2 overloaded parents on that day. 

The neurosurgery consult rocked me a little bit.  I think it's part of her job, but she seemed a lot less optimistic than the other doctors we had talked to.  And that's ok, we need to hear it all.  In short, shunts in newborns only have about a 50% success rate, due to infections, blockages and just not working.  And even when the surgery is successful, there's no telling what brain damage the fluid build up and pressure will have already caused.  So then we're faced with the decision, do we even risk the surgery?  It's awful to contemplate.  I honestly felt really stuck after that appointment.  On the drive home though, we stopped ourselves in our tracks and prayed and remembered that we have a Great God walking with us and guiding our steps.  I am a firm believer that if you are seeking God in your decisions, He is faithful and won't let you take the wrong path.  There's rest in that knowledge.  There's peace in that remembrance.  

The appointment on Tuesday with the Pediatric Neurologist just confirmed that way of thinking.  She went over the MRI with us in detail and had the opinion that at this point, with the things we know right now, there's no reason not to think that the shunt surgery could be successful and lead to our daughter having a pretty great qualitiy of life.  I specifically asked about outcomes she's seen with this amount of fluid already and she confirmed that she's still seen good outcomes.  

Of course, medical evidence or not, we know we always have a reason to hope, because our God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly more than we could ever ask or imagine.  If you know Jesus, but still struggle to have that hope, please let me know how I can encourage you.  Remember, our hope is not in the miracle we are waiting for, but in Jesus Himself and His goodness.  If you don't know Jesus and aren't even interested, please keep reading.  Your support is meaningful to me and my family. And feel free to ask me questions about how we can have this crazy hope!  It won't offend me, I promise.

If you are praying with us, please continue to pray for a miracle healing for our girl.  I'll be seeing both my new OB for normal pregnancy stuff and the Fetal Therapy team for ultrasound monitoring every other Monday.  Please pray for continued good brain growth and limited fluid increases.  We are hoping to be able to hold off on scheduling a c-section until around 38 weeks, so there's still a ways to go.  Pray that Seth and I would be able to fully cast our cares on God as we are in this time of waiting.  Pray for peaceful sleep.

Thanks for reading and praying.  Writing all of this out helps me immenesley and keeps me in the right mindset (and sometimes brings me back to the right mindset when I've wandered).  Love you.

He cried too

It's been a good week.  Life has felt pretty normal and we had a glorious 4 day weekend spent with friends and family.  We are so thankful for these bright moments.  

Yesterday was emotionally draining, but still good.  I met with some of the neonatal palliative care team over zoom yesterday.  The NICU Chaplain and 3 neonatologists from Hopkins were on the call.  No new information, just more support and details on possible scenarios once she's born.  It was extremely helpful to hear from the doctors who've seen babies in our situation and could give us some concrete possibilities and a better idea of what her first few days and weeks might look like.  It was also extremely hard and emotional to walk through the worst case scenarios and the decisions we could possibly be faced with.  I cried.  Like a lot.  Like ugly cries over the computer in front of people I just met.  And they sat with me and let me process.  It's weird, because I knew the range of possibilities, but walking through their reality was just a different experience.  The Doctors and Chaplain reiterated multiple times that they are hoping with us.  What an amazing group of people.  Although the call left me emotional for the rest of the day (and even a little still today), I also received new infusions of hope and support.  The Chaplain has texted since then to check in and give me her number and she wrote a long e-mail summarizing our call, since Seth wasn't able to attend. 

One thing that the Chaplain reminded me multiple times yesterday was to be kind and gentle with ourselves, as this is a very stressful and difficult journey.  Honestly, that's hard for me.  Because I've walked in the peace that God has brought me through your prayers, I feel sometimes like being emotional is letting myself down - failing at keeping my mind in the right place.   As I was praying through this yesterday, the thought came to me that you can fully trust Jesus and still just need Him to hold you sometimes.  And He wants to do that.  It's funny.  As I was medidating on that, my mom texted me a very similar thought.  

There are going to be triggers that I have to work through.  To be frank with you, the abortion discussion this past week that has been all over social media brings up some emotion, as termination of our pregnancy was one of the first options we were given when faced with our baby's possible prognosis.  In fact, even after we firmly shared with anyone who listened that we were firmly commited to our child and this pregnancy, wherever that led, doctors still left that option dangling.  I'm not trying to make any sort of political or moral judgement here at all.  I'm just encouraging anyone taking part in the debate to remember that there are real people behind these decisions and to speak with kindness.  Sorry for that aside.

There are going to be ups and downs on all of the roads that all of us walk, and there is a God Who's Name is Comforter.  In fact, Jesus knows and understands grief well.  He wept when Lazarus died, even knowing He would be alive again soon, even though He is God Himself.  

Thank you again for walking alongside us.  I am humbled when I think about all of the people praying for us.  Some ways to pray would be: 

Continued peace and comfort for our family

That I would baby able to carry the baby into December and as close to her due date as possible (being premature adds complications and would delay her shunt surgery)

Pray for Seth and I to be on the same page as we walk through difficult decisions we could need to make in the future

For a miraculous healing of her brain

That many would know God's goodness and greatness because of this sweet girl's life

Good does not always equal easy

 The past few days have been difficult emotionally for me.  I can't really explain why.  Nothing has changed.  No new appointments or information.  I still know that God is in control, He is good, His plans are good, He is love and He loves my family deeply.  None of that is different.  I know that it's true and I believe it with all my heart, but last week I was full of joy and this week I'm just weepy.  I guess sometimes, in the midst of His goodness, we are still faced with hard.  And He gives us the strength to keep moving forward.  

Isaiah 43:2 "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze."  I imagine that even though you won't be burned, it's probably still pretty hot walking through the fire.  I think this is such a good picture of the hard and the good together.  We are protected and safe.  He is walking this journey with us, but sometimes we'll still go through hot spots.

I think these are the times when it's the hardest to keep my eyes set on the One who holds all life in His hands, but when I'm able to it's so much easier to see the little miracles that He's working all around - like when a loved one shares just the right thing at just the right time.  Yesterday, my cousin was texting me and said "There is a reason God is letting you raise this baby."  That instantly brought me out of my weepy spiral back into the hope of God's good plan.  2 friends texted last night as I was growing a little sad and fearful before bed.  Just the right words at just the right time.  Seth's dad texted me this morning that he thought I might get some encouragement from a song by CeCe Winans - Believe for it.  He didn't know I've been struggling this week and he also didn't know about my blog post last week where I talked about that song popping up at multiple crucial times.  A friend also shared last week that she read that blog post last week before work one day and then it was playing the moment she started her car.  I could give you so many more examples of friends and family sending a devotional or verse that feels like it was written just for me in that moment.  

Thanks for reading this and walking with me.  It helps me so much to write these reminders out, and I hope it encourages you too, in whatever journey you are walking right now.  Community, both near and far, lifelong and recent - God definitely uses people to be His love notes to us.  In the past I've really had a hard time knowing what to do when friends and loved ones are struggling or just going through a difficult time.  I'm learning now that even if you don't think you know the right words, just reach out.  If something comes to mind that you think might help, ask specifically and directly if they would like you to do that for them.  The day we first found out the news, our close friend and pastor reached out and said, "Can we bring your family Sparticus pizza at 6 pm tonight?"  It was exaclty what we needed.  I couldn't have chosen what to eat or asked someone to bring us something.  (And this is not an underhanded way I'm requesting food, lol - We are good now - just an example of how something small can go a long way.)  So much love to all of you! 

Update

 A lot of people have been asking my how I'm feeling.  That's such a hard question to answer.  I guess the best answer is "a lot."  I just feel a lot right now.  Grateful, sad, hopeful, afraid, blessed, overwhelmed...and the list goes on.  

Yesterday was a super emotional day.  I sat down to journal and pray in the morning and went to look for a verse that has really comforted me in difficult times before.  The verse I was actually looking for was Psalm 27:13-14 "I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.  Wait for the Lord; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord."  Instead - I ended up in Psalm 37 and was immediately drawn to the beginning of verse 7 which says "Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him.".  At this point I was sensing a theme.  Waiting is hard, but that is our current season, so we will do it and have peace for now.

I went to church and sobbed the whole way through (which, I don't recommend while wearing a mask).  When we started singing Cece Winans believe for it, the sobs came harder, as that was the exact song I listened to on the drive over.  Friends, the road is hard, but God is dropping us love notes all the time.  Then the message felt like it was just for me.  One of the questions posed was, "Is the object of your prayer the miracle itself, or the One who makes miracles?" Particularly relevant right now.  At the end of the service a teenager came to the front to share something that had been on her heart.  I wish I could repeat her words exactly, but she was talking about how God had been impressing on her the importance of waiting on Him and that there was someone who was in the middle of a battle that needed to hear that God is in the waiting.  So we wait :-)

I went into today's appointment with the Fetal Therapy doctors at Hopkins with the mindset of continuing to wait, knowing that we have surrended it all to God.  It was a LONG ultrasound (baby girl is a wiggle worm like her big brother).  That definitely created some anxiety to fight off.  When we finally got to sit down with the doctor though, the news was actually somewhat optimistic.  The situation hadn't changed.  Still way to much fluid. But, it appears that the cause of the fluid is most likely the result of an aqueductal stenosis - a blockage between the 3rd and 4th ventricles of her brain.  This is really the best cause we could hope for, because it means her brain wants to develop, the fluid just won't let it.  So, when she's born, the pediatric neurosurgeon will place a shunt in her brain to drain the fluid and we'll see how her brain develops from there.  The prognosis could vary greatly, but if this is actually what's going on, it's not fatal.  We'll continue to pray for complete miraculous healing of her brain.  The doctor said she has seen blockages resolve on their own before, but never in a case this severe.  But God...We know He is in control of this entire process and will bring about His good plan.  And we have hope.  And peace, no matter what the outcome is.

It's not a coincidence that we are in a town with some of the best medical care we could have.  It's not a coincidence the songs and verses the Lord puts in my heart at just the right time.  It's not a coincidence when someone reaches out, just when we need that encouragement.  

I'm so grateful that He draws near in the middle of our deepest fears.  We are so thankful for your support, encouragement and prayers and are excited that you are joining us in seeing what God does. 💗

Why not Me?

 After 5 years of waiting, we finally had the result we had been hoping and praying for...I was pregnant! Colton would be a big brother!  We would be a family of 4.  After just moving out of our townhouse into a home with room to expand, we were going to do just that.  Now, the year is 2021, so COVID, in addition to walking through countless hardships with friends and family over the past 2 years, has caused me to not place very much confidence in the things of this world.  The good and the bad are all very temporary and any control we think we have is actually very little.  So we were cautiously hopeful.

I had some complications early on, but was assured by my doctors that there was no harm to the baby and things were still going well for us.  We told those close to us at that point so they could pray with us.  From week 5 on, we've had a community praying for this sweet child's health and life.  I'd love for you to join us in that prayer.

Early last week we received some very tough news about our new baby.  At our 20 week anatomy scan ultrasound we found out that our baby's brain was not developing properly.  The first thing the doctor said when she walked in the room were the 3 words you never want to hear a doctor say - "I'm so sorry."  Cue shock and confusion.  What is there to be sorry about?  We just saw all 10 fingers and all 10 toes.  A nose and sweet little lips.  Kindneys!  Their heart beating away with no problems.  We saw the brain for goodness sakes.  Unfortunately, we didn't realize that all that black we saw in the brain wasn't tissue, it was an extreme amount of fluid.  The medical term is severe ventriculomegaly.  In fact, it's very severe.  At this stage in development, doctors expect to see less that 10 mm of fluid, closer to 6.  At 15 mm, they classify it as severe.  Our baby had 17.7.  A very small amount of tissue could be seen around the very outer rim.  Until we figure out a cause (which could be so many different things), we won't have a prognosis, but in this doctor's estimation, the likelihood of a healthy child was minimal.  

"Now, we have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure." Hebrews 6:19 We believe our God is bigger that this issue.  We believe He is the ultimate healer and we have hope that He will miraculously heal our baby.  It's a strange thing to hold supernatural hope and and hard reality in the same hand, but that's what we're doing.  We won't bury our heads in the sand and hope it goes away.  We will proceed with testing (although there is absolutely nothing they can do to help while the baby is in utero) so we will have an idea of what kind of care the baby will possibly need when they are born.  

We are counting our blessings.  We live so close to one of the best hopsitals in the world, so we are thankful we'll be able to work with the amazing doctors and pediatric surgeons at Johns Hopkins Hospital.  It's not a coincidence that Seth's sister happens to work with those very surgeons and she has already been an invaluable help in getting advice and resources for us (and just being an incredible support).  It's also not a coincidence that my dear friend is friends with a doctor there who's team will be providing us direct care.  We already have so many friends and family on our team and praying for us and those prayers our working.  I am living and not hiding in my bed right now, and I have been able to sleep peacefully at night.  If you know me and my heart that tends towards anxiousness, you know those are miracles resulting directly from prayers.  Seth is off this month and we already had a vacation planned this week - time to reflect, decompress and press in to God.  Our almost 5 year old continues to thrive and bring joy at every turn.  My job is extremely flexible and my coworkers are amazingly supportive and understanding.  We are reminded by friends and family all day every day that we are loved and are not alone.  This all helps us keep our focus on the One who carries us through all of our troubles.  

I'm not going to sugarcoat it...that sadness and fear frequently still creep into my mind and heart.  Everytime Colton kisses my belly and talks to the baby, it takes everything I have not to collapse into a pile of sobs.  When I feel the baby practice their karate moves one me, I used to burst with joy, and now it reminds me of the uncertainty we face.  And sometimes in the quiet moments, it's just hard.  I think about things like - should I still set up the nursey? What will Christmas look like now (we are due on 12/26)?  I pass out at hospitals, how in the world will I care for a medically fragile baby?  Will I even bring my baby home from the hospital?  None of this is helpful I know - and none of it is even true - we have NO idea what God has planned.  I medidate on this verse, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." Philippains 4:8.  This is right after he tells us not to be anxious for anything but to bring our requests to God with thankfulness.  The truth is that God loves us and loves this baby and that this journey is hard, but He promises to walk us through it.  

I haven't really asked Why Me? Why Us?.  I think the temptation is there, but before this even happened, I would sometimes ask, "Why not us?"  I've seen the worst of the worst happen to the best of the best. It's not fair, but that's across the board.  I don't want this to be happening.  This is not the road we would have chosen, but I'm so thankful God is meeting us here and we are experiencing Him in an even deeper way.  

So for now we wait.  A pediatric neurosurgeon told Seth's sister that the best thing we could do is try to live our lives as normal as possible.  Please pray with us in this waiting.  For God to fully heal our baby on this earth.  For strength and peace as we wait.  For closeness to Him as we continue on this journey.  For Colton, that we could explain things in the right way and the right time and that his faith would grow.  

Thanks for reaching out and checking on us.  It makes a huge difference when we're reminded that we're not alone.